Happy Hump
Day!
To those of
you out there who thought The Style Profile was all about fashion and makeup -
SURPRISE! Today, we're asking for your feedback. As many of you
know, we spend our days chatting with women as we style their hair, touch up
their makeup, apply their false eyelashes, etc. etc.
Naturally,
we talk about men quite frenquently, and we've been noticing a trend that is
down right annoying! It even led me (this is Natalie, by the way) to make the
following tweet: "I've come to the conclusion that most men are
children...except gay men"
How could I
have come to this conclusion, you ask? The evidence is presented not only
in my conversations with clients, but I've also begun to recognize
the signs all around me!
Here are
just a couple examples from the last two weeks:
a) I
was sitting in the waiting area of a doctor's office minding my own business,
when a man and his wife took the seat next to me. He squinted his eyes
and turned to his wife, "I need new glasses" he said.
Immediately, his wife reaches for her purse and takes out a slender
calendar. "I'll make you an appointment" she replies without
hesitation. She scribbles down a note to herself then reaches for her
iPhone. "Who do I see again?" the man asks his wife.
She responds with a name and a location of a what I presume is the location of
his optomologist. (Sidenote, I want to be clear that this man was
completely competant in every way from my perspective. He was a man in his
late 50's). She knows who his eye doctor is and where it is
located. Does he know where her doctor is located and her doctor's name?
OF COURSE NOT!
b) At
dinner on Monday evening, the couple seated next to me must have been married
for a long time because they barely spoke at all throughout their entire
meal... They even gazed all around the room; they looked at everything except
one another. Thinking they could be upsin an argument, I paid closer
attention. Soon, I realized this wasn't the case at all. They
mumbled something to each other and then the waitress brought the check.
When I glanced back at them one last time I realized the wife paid the check.
That wouldn't be that big of deal, except I started thinking of all
my girl friends who balance household budgets... I'd say
90% of my friends do.
c) My
friend's boyfriend recently lost his dog to an unexpected illness. On impulse,
walks into a pet store and purchases two puppies. The boyfriend works
late hours and has decided against keeping the dogs, and has asked her to sell
them and keep them in the meantime. So he makes an impulsive decision and
she cleans it up?? What?!
d) A
girl gets tired of receiving late notices in the mail at the house she shares
with her boyfriend. One day, as he is watching tv in the next room, she
asks if she can write his checks to pay his bills. He says yes, and she
comes in to the room, one check at a time, for him to sign... she stamps and
mails his bills.
e)
Another girl calls her husband ALL the time. It's as though he can't
remember to do anything for himself. She ends up nagging him
incessantly. I started to think she enjoyed being in control of him...
Then I realized, NO GIRL could possibly enjoy nagging. I asked her about
it and she sighed with frustration. The bottom line is she can't trust him
to do what he says he will do, so she nags.
UGH!
What is this all about???!?!
My question to
you, lovely reader, is this: Do we - as women - create a relationship of
dependence with our significant others'? Do we try to 'mother' the men in
our lives? If so, do we do this because they are children and need
it? Or do we do it because of an underlying maternal instinct? OR
do we do it because we are insecure and subconciously we know taking care of a
man will make him stay? Are we overzealous to exercise our strength as
women because it gives us some kind of pleasure to be able to
provide for someone else?
OR - are
most men just lazy by nature?
Okay, we've
asked... Hopefully you'll be able to answer.
xoxo!
